Wednesday, February 10, 2010

a tete a tete avec moi

Occasionally, as every good 4 legged, I play the role of confidant to momma. Being a good confidant is not as easy as you might think . It is not the mere passive act of listening, let me assure you, there is much more to it than that.

Listening does not just happen between the ears. It also happens in your mind, in the visual cues and in the color of the voice. You have to pay attention to all that and react accordingly.
Momma, asks for a tete a tete when she has something to work out. The confidential aspect of our talk is what makes the tete a tete such a big deal. She trusts me. And she trusts my opinion!

So, I take my role seriously. I commiserate when she needs commiseration, sigh when she needs confirmation and share the process with her. Keep in mind that I don't interrupt her and I truly listen.

I know she must appreciate it because she works it all out and her smile lets me know that I helped her.

No, I can't tell you what we talked about. Confidential. BTW she does the same for me.

Listening and really hearing is a great skill.

Don't you think so?

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